HAPPY RELATIONSHIP. A DISTANCE OF ECOLOGICAL COMMUNICATION. PART 1

Relations with people are the main and inexhaustible source of life practice. Some of them bring us joy, others bring sadness. There are attitudes that frustrate us. We might also face people who are angry at us. A whole palette of emotions and sensations of human life passes through the neck of the relationship. And our relationship with loved and the closest ones play a particularly significant role in the process of the shaping of ourselves.

I'm talking about relationship within the family, primarily with parents, children, partners. Then follow the relationship with our friends, colleagues at work. I am also talking about family relationships in a broader sense of the family, such as for instance relationship with relatives. Very often distant relatives are very close to us, and close relatives are so far away that we almost cannot communicate with them.

I do not know anyone who lived a life without experiencing any kind of controversies or conflict with people who surround us. Relationships are a vital component, dynamic and constantly evolving. Therefore it is very important to realize that our sense of happiness and harmony depends on peace in our family, harmonious and balanced relations with our environment in a direct proportion.

I want to consider the option, when relations undergo crises, when they collapse, do not work out. Why is it ever happening? What's the reason? Why is there a misunderstanding between people and how to get rid of this misunderstanding and of the thoughts that are constantly coming back to these situations of misunderstanding and make our life unhappy?

There is a solution that I tried on myself and I want to share it with you. This solution is called "Distance of ecological communication". Differences and similarities of people are key elements in understanding why certain relationships work, while others do not, why some people please us, and others make us feel sad. Here I do not mean the similarities and differences of people referring to their age, material status, social level, education, geography or language.

The basic principle by which we differ is Awareness. In the assessment and resolution of conflict situations, as a rule, the factor of Awareness is not taken into account as a measuring category of human characteristics. The lack of comprehension that we are all alike and different in the category of Awareness is often leading us either to deadlock situations or to long-lasting conflicts in our relationships. We are people, and all of us have a different level of awareness. If two people, whose levels of awareness are very different, try to build close relationships, then this practically never can lead to a positive result. Nonetheless, on the other hand, all people can communicate with each other in a friendly and peaceful manner in the way that the difference in the level of awareness is taken into consideration.